Rewinding Regrets: Removing the Nails

Living in spite of mistakes is what makes us human. We grow from these mistakes and learn to improve ourselves. However, we can never really forget major ones. Through scars on the skin, or scars on the heart, we learn to live on with the pain. As time goes on, the pain slowly subsides, but the memories of the mind continue to haunt us.

I have many, many regrets that I carry upon myself, just as you do. My journey for perfection was born from these regrets. A hope that I might lead a life where the number of mistakes and regrets I carry will be reduced. Yet, it is not always changing one's actions as it is, remedying for past ones.

If mistakes are caused by mishaps in action or language, we all carry many more regrets than we would like to admit. Even now as I continue to mull over my past regrets again, I find that there are many things I have can remedy, and as time passes, the right chance comes by for me to do so. Then as I continue on with my own beliefs, I can comfortably live past my mistakes.


As such, I hope that you'll learn from some of my following mistakes:

1. Never let someone leave without a proper farewell. You won't ever be comfortable unless you do so. I've had this one stick to me for three years. It's a painful experience, especially one to hold for a friend that was close at one time. Always leave a good last impression, because they are what remain until your next meeting.
2. Don't say things you don't really intend to say, because harshness can cause horrid misunderstandings. I'm not known for being the most thoughtful person, nor am I the most vulgar person. I used to hate swearing, and I use profanity consistently now. Overusing it is never right, but avoiding it entirely is not plausible either. Set out goals of what you want to say, and follow them. You'll find relations will improve.
3. Never give up on something you know you'll regret. When you try to obtain it again, it won't be there. I for one, am glad I didn't give up on the violin, because I know that would be a mistake I would mull over in the future for years. However, I also let go of a friend who I held very dear. I reached out for it, but I could never find it again. Now, things are better, but that period where it was unobtainable was torture beyond belief.
4. Live the way you want to. Nothing is worse than living life in a way that doesn't please you. I've lived by this rule since I entered grade twelve, and since then life has never quite felt the same. For roughly seven years, I lived the way I believed I should live, not to my true colours. But after coming out with what I call being me, I've gained confidence and belief. So never be afraid to let go to be yourself.
5. If you don't want to do something, try not to do it. If you have to do it, do it happily. They say that bad attitudes are worse than bad jobs and this is a pretty good example of that. Avoid obstacles that can be avoided, but if you have to do something, be a good sport about it and you'll find that the everything works out.
6. When making decisions, look at yourself as the third party. Then slowly reach the right conclusion. I'm known for my fast paced thinking and faulty decision making. I inflict harm upon myself by taking action on instinct rather than logic. Sometimes instinct has to take charge, but if you have the time to think over it, chances are, logic will lead you on the better path.
7. When undecided, making sudden decisions is not a good idea. Let the subconscious mull over it. Fast paced decision making is a recipe for disaster. Decisions can take time, if they are important and require much discussion. However, rushing things that have to be taken slowly can lead to irreversible consequences.